Tangspiration: Do something that makes you feel uncomfortable

Hey Everyone,

I remember sitting down with a really close friend and telling her how life was never made to be easy. She’s never really worked for anything in her life, she’s always been spoon-fed with a silver spoon and she was facing a tough turning point in her life and I wanted her to hear me out. She’s one of my closest friends, but I felt that I had spent the last three years of my life telling her how to do everything and lots of times doing it for her that I was spoiling her. She always does what she wants and whenever she faces a difficult situation that makes her uncomfortable, she is the first person that would turn and walk the other way.

I told her just that. And I told her to start doing something that made her uncomfortable every day. Even if it’s the little-list things like going to the 24 hour study center at 9pm at night to make sure work is done. Or even finally spring cleaning out your closet. It’s something that I’ve been believing in since a while ago because life is too short to walk the only path that you know.

I’ve watched movies alone before, gymmed at 6 am every morning for a month. I’ve indoor sky-dived, I’ve founded my own blog and youtube for goodness sakes. I’ve put myself out there without any make-up on. I’ve gone to big parties only knowing the host, even if the host is a person that I’ve just met, and I’ve left those parties knowing everyone. I find that’s the best way to make new friends sometimes. I’ve done things for people I wouldn’t normally do. I even woke up early to get croissants for a guy I was dating because that’s his favorite food and he couldn’t wake up in time to get them from a particular place. I’ve never done that for someone before. I remember walking to the store wondering what in the world I was doing but what the hell, life is short, if you want to do it, just do it. I’ve loved, even if it wasn’t meant to be. I find that if you do something uncomfortable everyday or even just for starters once a month, you might just find yourself doing more things than you’ve ever done before.

I went for a run today at Carlton gardens and I realised that whoever said life was easy, has not lived at all. Doing things that are out of your comfort zone is difficult. It makes you feel funny, and sometimes that funny isn’t fun. But, imagine walking one path your whole life and missing out on the turning points that could have lead you to somewhere even greater, and even better. Start by doing something that makes you feel uncomfortable (within reason) and you’ll find that you’ll be living a life much more enriching and vast than you could have ever imagined.

Love,
Roseanne

 

17 comments

  • A.

    Such a beautiful post. :)

  • stephanie

    Totally like your post! Indeed I agree with you. Currently trying to go out my comfort zone.. To meet new people and be more talkative. It is difficult, because most of the time I do not have anything to talk about (I am the silence type person, I tend to speak when asked only). Share any tips please :)

    • roseannetangrs (author)

      Hey Stephanie :) talk about how you know the host, where they are from or if they’ve been to this place before that you’re at. Conversation slowly flows from there :)

  • Kathy

    Hi Roseanne, that´s a touching and beautiful post, thank u so much :) I am with you, do something uncomfortable, risk something or try something you´ve never tried before, and the life will get richer, you´ll get more experience. Later, if you are very very old, you look back and maybe regret nothing. Today are these good old days that we will remember in the future :)

    • roseannetangrs (author)

      Today are these good old days that we will remember in the future :) – so true! thanks for sharing love :)

  • Ruiting

    Such a wonderful piece of advice. :)

  • yanlin

    rosanne, where and how did you get the courage to put yourself out there? I want to get out of my comfort zone to explore life but often the fear of uncertainty and unfamiliar ulitmately gets the best of me. Could you share a bit more about that?

    • roseannetangrs (author)

      You just do it! Sometimes I hesitate but after all is said and done, if I know that there’s nothing wrong whatsoever with what I’m doing, I just go ahead and do it :)

  • Jess

    Thats wat I always like abt u! The courage to take the first step for anything even if its embarassing, scary n downright plain silly sometimes. Keep it up!

  • Farndzes

    Hi..I like this post..’Doing things that are out of your comfort zone is difficult’ I’m totally agree with this..i’m a shy person..I’m pasive around people that I don’t know, and act vise versa with the people that close to me..it was hard for me to talk to strangers..I’m only smile when someone smile at me..I don’t know why I can’t make a first move..I find it hard when I come a to a new place..I don’t like a crowded place..Just hoping that one day I can change..=)

  • Tiffany

    Such an inspiring post! I’m actually going to stick a piece of paper reminding me of this on my closet door so I remember.
    Near the end of last year I started to change and started thinking ‘what the hell what’s the worse that could happen’…I love it, kind of makes things a little more spontaneous and fun!

  • Cindy

    All of our fears and concerns, boundaries and limits are self made, self created and as such we can get rig of them by ourselves.

    We have just one life – there’s no time for fear.

    We must step on the gas babe! :)

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