I think a lesson I’ve learnt recently is that more often than not, we’re a little hard on ourselves. Maybe we didn’t get that grade we wanted, make the basketball team or get that recognition you thought you deserved at work. Maybe you’re 22 and you don’t exactly know what you want yet. Maybe you’re 30 and still feel the same way. Or, maybe you’re not sure what you’re doing is..well working out..or even more, is it what you really want in life? I get it all the time.
Yet, it feels like life and pretty much everyone around you wants a concrete answer. What are you doing now? What’s your five year plan? your 2? your 1? You feel a lot of pressure to answer, to categorise yourself into some cookie cut box so that people understand you. I’m here to tell you that for once, it’s alright if you don’t know.
Don’t be so hard on yourself. It takes a while to figure out what you love doing and what you’re willing to wake up for. If you’re fresh out of college and you’re still trying to find yourself, it’s okay. You’re still probably trying to balance the fact that your Mom and Dad ain’t going to provide for you for the rest of your life and you’re on your own. There’s a lot of things to think about like bills, rent, insurance premiums. It was a big challenge for me too. Then, you start comparing yourself to other people who look ten times more successful than you. Don’t go there either. Never compare your chapter 1 to someone else’s chapter 20. It’s okay. I’ve been there too and ended up being really sad about it. But you know what, I’m special, and I’m different and it’s okay. Take it day by day, step by step and have fun exploring different interests to find out what works best for you. You can’t find it until you start searching.
What we have to understand is that there’s a lot going on right now, don’t be so hard on yourself if you fail. The last thing you want to do is fall into a big pit of sadness. Instead, starting searching. That’s step one. It’s okay, don’t need to feel bad if what you’ve picked is wrong for you. Life is a place to learn, grow and explore. Pick yourself up, dust off your knees and keep walking. We’re all still trying to figure it out.
Have a great week,